Tips For The Boys

Welcome back to my page for my blog of the week mi gentes (my people)! I know I've been inactive but life has been a rollercoaster recently, what can I say? Anyways, if you haven't already make sure you listen to episodes 24 and 25. We also announced in this weeks episode that we are no longer uploading our episodes on Soundcloud, but we are now uploading our episodes on Youtube! But to check our episodes out or our YouTube channel click here. Now let's get into this weeks blog :)

This one is for the boys and ladies let me know if you agree or if I missed anything. You can always comment down below too!

Listen Linda Listen: Many guys claim that they're undivided attention is on their partner when us females can always tell when it's not. Guys...yes us females have a way with words and may have trouble explaining something or take too long telling a story, but don't give up on us! Just listen to what we have to say, ask questions if you're confused, and act somewhat engaged in what we feel comfortable telling you. Because half the time a female is ranting to you about whatever it's because it means something to her and is being vulnerable, so if you approach it wrong it can definitely become an issue for potential partners or current partners. It never goes unnoticed and can make us uncomfortable enough to the point where we can't open up to you again.

Don't rush: Whether you are talking to a girl or dating them do not rush into things. This will honestly end your relationship faster than any other thing I'll speak about in this blog. Simply because that's super overwhelming, and you don't want your relationship with your partner to feel like that either. In simpler terms, you guys will have regrets and may have not even gotten to known the basic "need to knows" of your partner. There's no need to rush, the best things take time, and if you're serious about her, then taking your time to form that bond prior to you both dating, will be sooo worth it.

Communicate: What else do I have to say here? COMMUNICATE! Don't just hang up the phone, ignore your girl for hours, post subs on social media, and whatever else to avoid discussing how you feel. At the end of the day the two things (to me at least) that will help a relationship be long lasting is having communication and trust. The minute you shut down about your feelings will be the minute she can't help but shut down as well. No matter what it is or how difficult it is always try to say something so assumptions don't start that will worsen the situation and cause her to overthink (that's all we do). Even if you don't want to talk about you can always say "Hey listen I'm not in the best mood today and I don't feel like talking about it right now. I'll get back to you when I've calmed down" or "I don't like that you did that but I don't want to discuss the issue right now when we're both frustrated and annoyed because this can end badly. I'll text you when I'm ready or let me know when you are."

Jealousy: It can be cute in someways but if you let it consume you, your insecurities will only ruin your possible relationship or current relationship. As we already know jealousy can cause fear, anger, anxiety, possible rejection, and loss of trust, so that's why it's important to communicate and have that trust and confidence with your partner.

We love the little things: Flowers, small messages, compliments, getting food, caring about the little things in our lives, you name it. If you do the right thing no matter how little it may be she will be a sucker for you!

Don't think being vulnerable is considered weak: I've seen boys as young as my 11 year old brother to grown ass men struggle with this. Vulnerability does not mean you're weak. As my beloved Shawn Mendes said in his song Wonder, "I wonder, when I cry into my hands I'm conditioned to feel like it makes me less of a man." Being a female and hearing that line made it hit so hard because I really see guys struggle with this. Who cares if people will think of you as "a bitch" or "less of a man" for showing what every human being has...emotions/feelings. This isn't the vampire diaries where you can turn off your emotions, no this is reality. Acting like you don't care about anything is the biggest turn off for women and will eventually cause insecurities with them because they won't be able to tell if you care about them, or if they say one wrong thing that you'll cut them off ASAP. To keep it short, guys be confident in yourself and embrace your feelings, it's what makes us human and will honestly just allow you to grow as an individual no matter what the case may be.

Concluding this blog, I just want to say a lot of you guys know this yet don't do it. Why? I don't know, but honestly why have drama and put yourself through things if you know you're not ready for it? Remember we are just like you, human, so we all feel the same, we all want to be respected the same, and treated with kindness. So guys get it together and ladies I'm giving you tips next.

Catch ya on the flip side and have a great week everyone!